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.)Good.That's content reframing.Bill didn't bother to go through theofficial six-step reframing model; he simply used my beliefs aboutmyself to get leverage to induce a change.The thing that is very elegantabout the sequence that just occurred is that Bill had the flexibility tofind the things in my reality that he could use as leverage to get me touse some new behavior.I've given him several indications, both ana-logically and verbally, "Well, I've been away sixteen hours, you know,that I take pride in being a real "man." So he says "Are you man 113enough to take control of the situation?" And that would work.Billalso had the finesse to be able to stop me from talking about my wifegoing back to school, which was irrelevant to what Bill wanted toaccomplish.Man: Isn't this hypothetical truck driver asking you to change hiswife's behavior, though?As a therapist, the perceptual frame you can use is "Of course youwant her to be different, and the way that's going to happen is thatyou'll be different: your being different will make her different." Ofcourse you won't tell the client that.You are going to use leverage theway Bill just did, in order to force the truck driver into new behavior.That will have the effect of changing her behavior.OK.Do you have any comments about the sequence that we justrole-played here? Notice that this was not a standard six-step refram-ing.However, most of the steps were there; they were just externalized.After Bill made the content reframe, I became the part that was the newbehavior.I didn't look the way I looked when I talked about Y.When Ibecame the new behavior, I actually accessed the situation in allsystems.I saw my wife, heard the sound of her voice, and had thekinesthetic sensations of being at home.That takes care of the future-pace, so Bill doesn't need to ask "Will that part take responsibil-ity for the new behavior occurring in that same context?"The ecological check hasn't come up yet, but I assume that he wouldgo there next.Alternatively, he could use a second session with me asan ecological check.You don't have to do all of the steps in the samesession, although it's much better if you do.Woman: How about testing?That's a good question.How would you test?Woman: Are you going home after this, or are you going on a tripsomewhere?Ken: No, I'm going straight home after this.(Ken analogicallyaccesses the new behavior.)Woman: What are you going to do when you get home?Ken: None of your business! As a matter of fact, are we about done?I'm ready to go.Fred: There's just one quick thing before you go.Ken: What's that?Fred: Your wife's at home, and you have children, right?Ken: Yeah, but they're at school right now.Fred is checking for ecological considerations now. 114Fred: When you walk in the door and see your wife, I want you to"put the hammer down and convoy."ExerciseNow I want you to write down three situations that you frequentlyencounter in six-step reframing that you want more choices aboutcoping with.It might be that you are unable to get access to a signalsystem.It might be that you don't know what to do when the client getsconfused in the middle of the reframing process and says "I don't knowwhat I'm doing anymore." It might be that the person says she can'taccess her creative part.Or perhaps the part says it won't take respon-sibility for implementing the new choices, because it's not certainwhether they'll work.Here is an outline of six-step reframing to helpyou identify the points at which you would like to have more choices.Six-Step Reframing Outline1) Identify the pattern (X) to be changed."I want to stop X'ing but Ican't," or "I want to Y, but something stops me."2) Establish communication with the part responsible for the pattern.a) "Will the part of me that makes me X communicate with me inconsciousness?" Pay attention to any feelings, images, orsounds that occur in response to asking that questioninternally.b) Establish the "yes/no" meaning of the signal.Have it increasein brightness, volume, or intensity for "yes," and decrease for"no."3) Separate the behavior, pattern X, from the positive intention of thepart that is responsible for X.The unwanted behavior is only a wayto achieve some positive function.a) Ask the part that runs X "Would you be willing to let me knowin consciousness what you are trying to do for me by PatternX?"b) If you get a "yes" response, ask the part to go ahead and com-municate its intention.If you get a "no" response, proceed withunconscious reframing, presupposing positive intention.c) Is that intention acceptable to consciousness? Do you want tohave a part of you which fulfills that function?d) Ask the part that runs X "If there were ways to accomplish 115your positive function that would work as well as, or betterthan X, would you be interested in trying them out?"4) Access a creative part, and generate new behaviors to accomplishthe positive function.a) Access experiences of creativity and anchor them, or ask "Areyou aware of a creative part of yourself?"b) Have the part that runs X communicate its positive function tothe creative part, allow the creative part to generate morechoices to accomplish that function, and have the part thatused to run X select three choices that are at least as good orbetter than X.Have it give a "yes" signal each time it selectssuch an alternative.5) Ask the part "Are you willing to take responsibility for using thethree new alternatives in the appropriate context?" This provides afuture-pace.In addition you can ask the part at the unconsciouslevel to identify the sensory cues that will trigger the new choices,and to experience fully what it's like to have those sensory cueseffortlessly and automatically bring on one of the new choices.6) Ecological Check."Is there any part of me that objects to any of thethree new alternatives?" If there is a "yes" response, recycle to step2 above
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