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.Willingness is not amatter of trying.Must you believe something about this drawing in order to put it into your pocket? Hopefully, it isclear that the answer is no.Willingness is not a matter of belief.Beliefs are just more issues that could bedrawn inside the head.Is pretending to put the paper into your pocket the same as putting it into your pocket? Hopefully,it is clear that the answer is no.Willingness is not self-deceptive. 132 Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your LifeIf you spent some time on it,you might end up with a head thatlooks something like figure 9.2.The head looks very busy.ButI m so sadmust it be your enemy?As a physical metaphor for areal change in direction in your life,are you willing to put your head onpaper into your pocket and carry itfor a while? We suggest carrying itHeart racingone hour or more a day, but if thatis too much for you right now,specify the amount of time you willcarry it and commit to doing so.I want to hit someoneIf the answer is yes, if & and the if is something you donot control, try again.If the answeris no, dig into what that answer isin the service of, and see whether itI just want outis really in your best interests.Ifyour answer is a good, clean yes,then put it into your pocket.Go back to the bulleted list ofthings that willingness is, and see ifyou can carry this paper that way.During the time you choose toFigure 9.2: What the pain in your head might look like.carry it, pat your pocket periodi-cally to remind yourself of what youare carrying.In this physical meta-phor, see whether it is okay to have all that stuff on the paper and still do whatever you need to do inyour life as you go about day-to-day living.Let carrying the picture of your head stuffed with your issuesbe a way of asking yourself whether the stuff on that paper really stands between you and living a power-ful, vital life, or whether you can, in fact, carry it gently, lovingly, and willingly, as it is and not as it saysit is.LifeisnotworthlivingygrernaFeoeenThervaIheiswrsomethingongwithmefaultatearentsparMyNoonewilllovemeylenoolmsI CHAPTER 10Willingness: LearningHow to JumpLife is asking you a question.The question was once mumbled, misunderstood, or nearly inaudible.It s notsurprising that you haven t answered yes, but, unfortunately, failing to answer or answering no have nearlythe same results, and they have those results whether you know that you are being asked a question ornot.One purpose of this book is to help you hear the question.Another is to figure out whether it sreally in your best interests to continue giving life the same answer or nonanswer.If it isn t in your inter-est to continue with a negative or nonanswer, then the purpose of this book is to help you get to sayingyes to life.The question is complex in its form but simple in its essence.We call it The Life Question. Nowread through the following multipart question several times until you can hold on to it as a single question:Starting from the place in which there is a distinction between you as a conscious, mind-ful human being on the one hand, and all of the private experiences you are conscious ofand struggle with on the other hand,are you willing to feel, think, sense, and remember all those private experiences,fully and without defense,as you directly experience them to be, not as what your mind says they are,and, do whatever it takes to move you in the direction of that which you truly value, 134 Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Lifeat this particular moment, and in this particular situation?YES or NO?It s time to begin to jump.Using all of the skills you ve learned so far, now s the time.Answeringyes to the life question, no matter how narrowly it s cast, is such a jump.It is a jump into the unknown.It is a jump into a world in which getting rid of or managing your own history is no longer required inorder to begin to live the life you truly want to live.It is a world of self-acceptance, openness, ambiguityof content, and clarity of purpose
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